Why the “Do As I Say, Not As I Do” Mentality is The #1 Mistake Killing Your Business

Ok…this a post specifically for business owners or those wishing to build a digital presence. So read on if this is you or read on anyway because it’s still very good info…Bryan S Arnold

It’s so easy to tell people what to do with their business. Isn’t it?

You have the knowledge and the skills. You’ve read a bunch of books and know how to get things done. The problem is that you don’t do it.

You don’t start!

You have your business on deck but you never step up to the plate!

It’s easy to yell and scream at your friends and colleagues when they need help. You can give them all loads of advice on what they need to start their business.

But what’s really happening with yours?

Less than you would like to admit perhaps?

Because, yes…it’s easier to tell people what to do than to do it yourself. If life could be this simple.

No one would get any work done. Someone has to do something. Maybe one day you’ll be big time and you can delegate all your work. Perhaps outsource a ton of your work.

I get that. That would be cool and a highly feasible approach if you ask Chris Ducker.

But if you’re not there yet…you need to do something yourself.

Get your business off the ground. Get your butt off the couch.

This “Do As I Say, Not As I Do” mentality is gonna get you nowhere fast. And you know it!

People are gonna get suspicious that you’re giving them all this info and you don’t have anything to back it up. You’ll start to hear this after while…

“How do you know all this stuff?”

“And how do I know that what you’re telling me will work?”

“Where’s your proof?”

It’s one thing to read up on a bunch of stuff and gain a lot of knowledge. It’s another thing to actually go about applying what you’ve learned.

This is where the real learning comes in. Through trial and error.

The problem is that most people don’t want to go through the trial and error part. They just want to get to the good part. Is this you?

Hey…I’ll raise my hand to that! That would be a dream come true!

Surely you couldn’t be one of those type of people are you?

You will be called out quick and labeled a fraud. And you don’t want that. Don’t be someone whose only mistake in life is being afraid to participate in the trial and error stage.

This is supposed to be the fun part but we often see it as a painful experience.

  • We don’t want to make mistakes.
  • We don’t want to be embarrassed.
  • We don’t want to be called out if we make an error with a client or customer.

But either way, you’re gonna be called out.

And I’d rather be called out for making a mistake with a customer than to be called out as a fraud. Your reputation is everything. And everyone with a business makes mistakes.


  • Apple makes mistakes with their new products every time they come out.


  • Microsoft makes a ton of mistakes with every new operating system.


  •  Samsung makes mistakes with their new devices and they know it.


  • Amazon’s products don’t quite get it right all the time either.


But they still put them out there. Because they know mistakes can be corrected.

Let me say that again in all caps…MISTAKES CAN BE CORRECTED!

What does that mean?

It means that you have to “Do as You Say!” first.

So when you advice people you can then say… “Do as I Do, Not as I’ve Done”

You can actually advice people on what you’re actively doing. And warn them against all the mistakes you’ve done in the past.

This is the best case scenario for you.

Otherwise you’re just killing your business big time!

You gotta get to work on your own business before you start to teach other people. Or teach as you go on your journey…this is also good (sometimes better). Get in the game and get those inactive muscles going again.  It will be more than worth it.

It’s much better to say, “This is what I do in my business every day as opposed to this is what I heard you should do…”

The authority that statement demands is above all others.

It commands respect and people will be drawn to you. You words will be trustworthy. They won’t just be tips. They will be words to live by because you’re actually doing it or have done it.

That’s where you need to be. This mentality of helping out others and not having done it yourself is for the birds…meaning it’s foolish!

And that’s what most of us sound like when we spout out a bunch of tips but have no proof because we don’t implement them ourselves.

You will be found out eventually and then what?

You will be embarrassed and the rest is history. So put some experience under your belt. Don’t just talk the talk. Walk the Talk…haha…thought I was gonna say walk the walk huh? Nope!

Do as you say. Make it count. Back it up.

And you will be the authority that you crave. You will truly be unshelled, breaking out of this terrible mental barrier. And you’ll be just so awesome.

Enough said…get it done.

Ok, so there it is…a bit of tough love on this post today but I’m preaching to the choir as well. This is just a Friday wake up post. I’ll be nicer on the next one, I promise. But comment if you dare…haha, and let me know if you agree that this mentality is killing your business or if it’s something else…and I will respond as per usual. Cool?

Bryan S Arnold

Bryan S Arnold is an avid writer with a passion for copywriting, blogging, and helping people create permanent change in business and in life. And if you ask nicely, he might just sing a tune for you.

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Bryan S Arnold is an avid writer with a passion for copywriting, blogging, and helping people create permanent change in business and in life. And if you ask nicely, he might just sing a tune for you.

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